How to Stay Consistent with Consistency

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“What’s consistent in your life; is your life” -Abdul Rauf

One of my closest and dearest friends Sohaib Mugheera Siddiqui tagged me in one of his Facebook Status Updates during last couple of weeks and it read as given below:

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He shared a problem he’s been facing since his childhood and that was ‘inconsistency’ in what he does. Being consistent is as important as is difficult to be. But when you get it; it becomes habit to do something which is then easy to carry on. My comment in its response was:

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Before dipping ourselves into the sea of tips, tricks and how-to regarding getting consistent; let’s discover the power of consistency.

Importance of Consistency
This is truly true that, “Idea creates action; action creates habit; habit creates personality; personality creates character and character becomes your destiny.” But actually these sentences can only be true when they’re blended with “Consistency”. So now let’s reform it as;

“Consistent idea creates action; consistent action creates habit; consistent habit creates personality; consistent personality trait creates character and consistent character becomes your destiny.”

To quote myself,

“Consistency is what matters the most in triggering something important to your life” -Abdul Rauf

Apply this quote by me onto one of aspects of your life and see if I’m true. If not, feel free to let me know through comments below and/or use this form to contact me.
If you’re consistent in doing morning-exercises, you will enjoy positive health benefits onto your mind and body. You get big-thing-done if you are consistent. Relatively bigger achievements are always done by consistently doing things.

Take example of some celebrities like Bill Gates, Shahrukh Khan, Auron Shwartz, Mark Zukerburg, Oprah Winfrey, Warren Buffet, Darren Rowe, Barack Obama, Jaun Eliya, Qudrat-ullah Shahab, Mumtaz Mufti; Consistency is common trait among them. Let me know if Shahrukh Khan would have stopped acting after doing his first film ‘Dewana’, what would have happened? If Bill Gates would have believed what his teacher has said about him (that he cannot study anymore), what would have happened to his career? Barack Obama has been consistently failed in many elections and in the end, has become President of US (even for the 2nd time only because he is consistent). Darren Rows has been consistently working as successful pro blogger for many years. He still works from 7 to 8 hours per day.

How to be Consistent
Now let’s dive into what it takes to be consistent.

1. Be a Finisher
Be a finisher – not mere a starter. Look back to your life and see if you have only been a starter.

“Getting started does matter but getting something done is an achievement” -Unknown

So, finish it what you’ve just started. End-product is what’s presentable to the people or even to you. Being just a starter alone is against your self-esteem as well. Mind your self-respect. This keeps you on track.

“Motivation is what gets you started; habit what keeps you going” -Abdul Rauf

“Do What You Can”

Quoting another comment by our mutual lovely friend named Waqas Mugheera Iqbal to the status update by SM Siddiqui,

“In the morning, see what you can achieve all the day, start achieving it.” -Waqas Mugheera Iqbal

Life has a simple rule;

“Do things the way they ought to be done”.

Simple as it is. This is simple universal rule,

“If you do what you can, you will be a successful man/woman.” -Abdul Rauf

By doing so, you have a clear to-do list for the day. Jot it dowm on the paper. Next recquired things are; passion, willpower, ‘I can do’ behavior, approach etc. But be a real person. No-one is super hero. Super-hero doesn’t exist. While creating to-do list for yourself, never overestimate. Believe in realism.

Decide What’s Really Important
Before doing things randomly, decide what’s really important. Set your priorities and go accordingly. Ponder over what, why and how you do things in life. When SM. Siddiqui updated his status update, Khawaja Shahid, one of our lovely mutual friends, has advised as given below:

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His point in my words is, “Ponder before you decide. Get your decision-making power audited by comprehension.” he actually advised to ponder and comprehend before making some decision because decisions are crucial in one’s life. Think before you speak; ponder before you decide. Then do what you’ve decided on priority-base earlier. Stand by it.

Be Strong & Health
You may or may not believe but consistency and being strong & healthy have a strong relation. This has been observed that strong and healthy people are more consistent or say ‘Consistent people are stronger and healthier’. Here, by being strong, I mean strong mentally and being healthy means being strong physically. Latter is the case all the time. Your willpower makes you mentally stronger. Your “I can do” attitude makes you stronger and healthier. Being healthy is important as well;
“A sound body has a sound mind”.
So to be strong, be healthy first. [Note: Being strong physically doesn't necessarily make you strong mentally. It's probable case somehow.] Go to exercise in the morning. Make workout plan. Eat healthy and live fresh. Famous quote is there,

“You are what you eat.”

Study reveals doing exercise enhances your willpower. Stronger your willpower is; higher is the chance of getting consistent in what you do. Approach to how you do things does matter in your life.

Decide What’s Really Important
Before doing things randomly, decide what’s really important. Set your priorities and go accordingly. Ponder over what, why and how you do things in life. When SM. Siddiqui updated his status update, Khawaja Shahid, one of our lovely mutual friends, has advised as given below:
His point in my words is, “Ponder before you decide. Get your decision-making power audited by comprehension.” he actually advised to ponder and comprehend before making some decision because decisions are crucial in one’s life. Think before you speak; ponder before you decide. Then do what you’ve decided on priority-base earlier. Stand by it.

Delete Distraction/Hinderances
Remove as many distractions as possible. If something cuases you to divert your thoughts from your work, delete it if you can.

If these distractions keep disturbing you; you will end up ultimately. So make a list of possible hinderances and then consider deleting them to a possible extent.

Self-Control (Jihad-un-Nafs)
Self-Control is also important thing to be consistent at doing something which means a lot to you. Arabs/Muslims can call this as “Jihad-un-Nafs”. Control your thoughts and try to focus them onto essential stuff for you. Practice Jihad-un-Nafs and expect better results in return. Self-control is one of the most difficult points I’ve suggested here. But at the sametime, it’s very essential in making you consistent. How can you be consistent without going against your random (unwanted) desires?

Time-Tabling/Schedulising
Believe it or not, but you’d want to schedulise your tasks to be consistent. Studies have revealed that you’re more consistent at the things you do on the sametime regularly. Setting up a timetable is as easy as 1,2,3 but following accordingly is not a child’s play.

But I know you are not a child. After all, this is why you studying a mature topic here. Follow other given points here to follow your timetable. In start, set timetable for 20 days. Tell your mind that you are going to follow them only for 20 days. 20-days formula works. Actually, after repeating your routine, you become used to it. Break your work into doable pieces. Follow Facebook-Timeline Model. This keeps you on track. And this lets you realise you can do it. After doing all this; see what big-things you have achieved.

Dont Associate with Inconsistent People
Hmmm… Seems like a harsh/rude point? Let’s comprehend it.

“You become the person you mostly hang with.” -AbdulRauf

This is a fact but let’s make this taste sweet. How? Of course by hanging out with good people – consistent ones in this case. When you associate with inconsistent guys, you dont feel the importance of being consistent. Surround yourself with the people who are more consistent at what they do. Inpire and get inspired.

Last Word

I always say that no-one can reform you until you yourself dont want it. So, no-one can make you consistent person but only “You”.  If I have missed some poin, feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in comments below.

AbdolRauf: My 2012 year in blogging

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The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 4,400 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 7 years to get that many views.

Click here to see the complete report.

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I’ve Launched Website of Jalalpur Pirwala


This post is to let all of my Jalalpuri fellows know that I, with my friends, have launched website of Jalalpur Pirwala.

Website of Jalalpur Pirwala: http://www.jalalpur-pirwala.com/

So, Jalalpur-Pirwala.Com provides all kinds of information regarding the loveliest city town Jalalpur Pirwala.

Address/URL of Website of Jalalpur Pirwala: http://www.jalalpur-pirwala.com/

Launched by: Me (Abdul Rauf) with Waqas Mugheera Iqbal, Irfan Ahmed, Sohaib Mugheera Siddiqui, Faheem Siddiqui, Naeem Moavia Siddiqui

Special Thanks to: Ali Ammar Yasir, Asad Qureshi, Mushtaq sb, Asjad Qureshi and all friends, fb friends, Facebook Page Likers and JP’s FB Group mates.

I’m sure you’d LIKE:
Facebook Page of Jalalpur Pirwala:

http://www.facebook.com/jalalpur.pirwala/

Are You Afraid of Insecurities?

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This is guest-post by Nadine Ly.

“Insecurity is a feeling of general nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable in some way, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which threatens one’s self-image and ego” - Wikipedia

Let’s get straight. I want you to try a little experiment alongwith me. Are you ready?
Stay in front of mirror and take a look in it for a second. What do you notice? Do you see a beautiful person with great potential or an average-looking person with no or little potential?
If you see a beautiful and confident person, that’s great! You feel like you can conquer anything and can do what YOU want to. But I would like to address those of you who think they’re only ‘average’. Like you, I can also relate to feeling like “I don’t do enough” or “I’ll never be able to accomplish anything”. First of all, let’s clarify that what makes you think that way? Was there an experience in the past that made you think that way today?
There are two sayings that come to mind when I think about this: “We all have flaws” & “Nobody’s perfect”. I’ve heard it over and over and over and over, but it never really stuck to me. But, what I did to relieve this pain of over self-consciousness was to take these two sayings and tested them outside in the real world. What I found was pretty amazing! I noticed that when I talk to others it’s not like I pick apart all the imperfect details about them. I look at their entire image and don’t really care if they dress differently or look different than others. I see them positive way too.

Sometimes what we dislike in us is wanted by others the most. We’re all so busy looking at our own flaws and thinking everybody else notices and dislikes them that we never take the time to notice how much they mean to us. They might not seem great to you, but to someone else, your imperfections are flawless. We’re all beautiful people so take time out of your day today to appreciate your insecurities and I promise they won’t bother you as much anymore. Your insecurities might be your attributes.

Nadine Ly is a life lover and owns a website:Nadinee in which she shares different things on life. She’s an amateur blogger & YouTuber. You’d love visit her YT Channel: Fluky Inkling.

Learn Life From Young Pakistani: Interview with Arzu Chuhan

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The Junior Executive at Multan Regional HQ of NADRA (National Database Registration Authority) of Pakistan, who turned 25 last week, manages to host different radio shows at a private radio channel, while supervising different youth groups like YPO etc and working for the betterment of society since the age 9, intends to join NGO to be a positive part of community, therefore also took part in Peace-for-All Network by ASAAN Foundation to spread peace. She holds Dilploma of Associate Engineering in Electronics alongwith some short-course-certifications of Computer Software & Hardware, Linux OS, Compute Graphics etc. She’s ambitious to be top Software Engineer of Pakistan.

You’re here to learn different life lessons and tips that this young multi-tasking Arzu Chuhan shares. She was kind enough to take time for this interview so that readers & I may learn life. I’m thankful to her for the favor. So let’s start.

Me(AbdolRauf): Thanks for taking time for this interview. Well tell me about yourself, your passion and positions you hold.
Arzu Chuhan: I’m thankful to you for the chance to share things in my life. [Read more in introduction paragraph please]

Me : You’re a multi-tasking girl, how do you manage stress?
A.C : Well, I love to work and I love helping others at my workplaces. To manage stress, do what you love and love what you do.

Me : Hmmm… Great. Let me know how to have winning attitude at workplace?
A.C : People, sometimes, find ways to impose additional work load on me; I normally get calm down and try to solve problems; sometimes with positive arguments and a smile only.

Me : Can you please point out 3 biggest mistakes that the youuth of our age is making?
A.C : Good questrion. Yes, these are:
1. Getting away from our culture and religion.
2. Using various media only for fun, thus spoling lots of time.
3. Spoiling time & energy in other unproductive ways.

Me : OK. As you’ve held various positions at an early age, I’d like you to share some tips for better career.
A.C : Yes of course.
-Spend more time & energy to gain knowledge rather than getting mere degrees.
-Manage your time carefully as I do.
-Learn from past; implement on future. I always review what I do.

You’d also love to visit: Some Life Lessons from Shahrukh Khan

Me : Wow. Great tips! What strategy you follow when you come across negative comments?
A.C : I’m thankful to those who let me know about the real wrong things in me. I do listen to their perceptions but I do what I want to.
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Me : What do you tell yourself when you are discouraged and want to stay motivated?
A.C : I discuss discouraging statements/acts with some of my very good friends who give me motivation. I always tell myself, “Dont stop till the last minute. Because we really feel tiresome when we’re somewhere near to success. Chances are rare; never ever let them go unavailed.”

Me : Superb! Can you please let me know more about your future plans?
A.C : Firstly, my plan is to start my career as Software Engineer (Inshallah in coming up year). Secondly, I love to be social worker therefore gonna join some NGO for that; want to change the world positively. Thirdly, I want to spend more time with my family and friends.

Me : May Allah bless you achieve them. Share some of your favorite quotes.
A.C : My favorite quotes are:
“Opportunity is swift flight; but slow to return.” (Hazrat ali (RA)
when relation is new, people find reasons to meet. But when its gets older, people find excuses to avoid meeting.It’s strange but true.

You’d also love to visit: Top Life Quotes

Me : Great. Let’s say you’re on a radio show and you have only 30 seconds to deliver your msg, what would it be?
A.C : Yes it would be, “Take care of yourself (Because if you take care of yourself, then others will take care of you.) and the relations around you. Remember me in your prayers.”

Me : Thanks so much for sharing practical tips and lessons of your life.
A.C : Thank you so much for having me and giving me valuable chance to share them.

You’d also love to visit: Power of Attitude of Gratitude

Was this interview helpful in learning things in life? What’s the thing that you like the most in Arzu Chuhan? I’d love to know what’s your favorite life lesson/tip in this interview in comments?

Power of Attitude of Gratitude

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“Gratitude or gratefulness is feeling, emotion or attitude in acknowledgement of a benefit that one has received or will receive.” – Wikipedia
The Creator of the Universe has provided us with all of the benefits that we need in order to live a happy and a healthy life. Now these are ‘We’ who have made our world so much greedy that we have changed our happinesses. Media has also played its role regarding this. Now different commercials let us know what we need badly and what we not. This is ‘we’ who to decide but such commercials provoke us to get a luxurious car if we really want to be happy. Now, I’m not trying to convince you not to buy cars, furniture even if needed.i just wana say that these are not the real reasons behind your happinesses. Happiness is a feeling. Thankfulness is also a feeling. Simplifying, apart from artificial worldy stuff, there’re thousands of thousands of things that we should be thankful for. This is not problem that we dont have benefits to be thankful for; but the problem is that we dont acknowledge them. We’ve forgot simple natural stuff in this crazy going world of materialism. I simply want you to be grateful for every aspect of life. Why? Because:

Attitude of gratitude helps you understand the nature
To be grateful, you are to acknowledge things. You’ll begin to search and seek out the things that are near you. This is the way you can understand the nature. More things you’ll find, more thankful you will become for them.
And Allah (God) says in Quran, “If you’ll be more thankful, I’ll give you more.”

Gratitude makes your relationships more strong
Social needs are those basic needs that human-beings own; this is why they’re designated as social animals. If need is fulfilled, man gets happy. And more happy you are; more will be the people around you and vice versa.
He has not thanked Allah (The God), who has not thanked people” – Holy Prophet Hazrat Mohammad SAW
You’ll be grateful for little or bigger gifts and acts by the people around you; stronger relations you own. Dont you get happy when you’re thanked?

Gratitude attracts what we want
This is universal law that more focus you put on things, more they’ll be attracted to you. And if you think about the things that you’re thankful for; you will ultimately attract that closer. Be grateful for things you have and even for the things you dont have.

More Gratitude, Less Aggression
If you google, you’ll come to know that recent researches have shown that being more grateful makes you less aggressive. Apart from these studies, you must have experienced this. If not, then experience it; I bet you will enjoy.

Gratitude reduces negativity
A guy has lost his leg and you might think how frustrated guy he must be. But if he replies, “Thank God, I’ve not lost my second leg”, you must get surprised how positive he is. Do you get why? Because he’s thankful. Gratitdde always reduces negativity. In bad situations, you always need positive behavior, but chances of negative thoughts are higher; because the situations are bad. A thankful guy can handle these situation more suitably.

“Grateful people have more energy and optimism and are less bothered by life’s hassles.” – Founder of Success Consciousness

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more, if you concentrate on what you dont have, you’ll never ever have enough.” – Oprah Winfrey

“It’s not happy people who are thankful, it’s thankful people who are happy” MY Favorite Gratitude Quote by Unknown Writer

“There’s always to be thankful for, if you cannot pay bills, you can be thankful you are not one of your creditors” The Quote From Unknown Writer That Inspired Me To Write This Post

Here’s the shortest list of the things to be grateful for:

-Parents: for producing you and growing you up.

-Family: for being the closest kinship in the world.

-Friends: for sharing bad and good time.

-5 Senses; for letting you know/feel the world around you.

-Speech: for letting world know what’s inside you.

-Immune System: for making you away from diseases etc.

-Sexual System: for reproducing and pleasure.

-Heart; for pumping blood

-100s of other parts of body; to make you complete human machine.

-Sun: for getting light and heat from it.

-Rain: for waters etc.

-Animals; that you use for transport, food etc.

-Shoes: for comfort.

-Kind strangers: for giving you sweet memory.

-Love: for you can feel that you are alive.

-Job: for being the source of your living, food, clothes etc.

-Movies: for learning morals etc.

-Oxygen: for you breathe through.

-Transport: for saving your time and much energy, etc.

-Internet: to exchange ideas, knowledge, memories, services etc with the globe.

And the list is limitless, share the things that you’re thankful for in comments. I’d love to read them:

Top Life Quotes

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Quotes About Life and What Influences Its Quality

  1. Your personal philosophy is the greatest determining factor in how your life works out.
    Jim Rohn
  2. Life at any time can become difficult: Life at any time can become easy. It all depends upon how one adjusts oneself to life.
    Morarji Desai
  3. There are enough genuine difficulties in life to encounter, don’t allow your imagination to increase the number.
    Neil Eskelin
  4. Life can only be understood backwards but it must be lived forwards.
    Soren Kierkegaard
  5. Self-confidence comes naturally when your inner life and your outer life are in harmony.
    Brian Tracy
  6. My life is an indivisible whole, and all my attitudes run into one another; and they all have their rise in my insatiable love for mankind.
    Mahatma Gandhi

Quotes About Life Rewards

  1. The most rewarding things you do in life are often the ones that look like they cannot be done.
    Arnold Palmer
  2. To do the useful thing, to say the courageous thing, to contemplate the beautiful thing: that is enough for one man’s life.
    T.S. Eliot
  3. Everything that’s really worthwhile in life comes to us free – our minds, our souls, our bodies, our hopes, our dreams, our intelligence, our love of family and friends and country. All of these priceless possessions are free.
    Earl Nightingale
  4. You never know when one act, or one word of encouragement can change a life forever.
    Zig Ziglar
  5. You are the Michelangelo of your own life. The David you are sculpting is you.
    Joe Vitale

Quotes About Life Lessons

  1. The most exhausting thing in life, I have discovered, is insincerity.
    Anne Morrow Lindbergh
  2. Fortunately, problems are an everyday part of our life. Consider this: If there were no problems, most of us would be unemployed. Realistically, the more problems we have and the larger they are, the greater our value to our employer.
    Zig Ziglar
  3. My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.
    Oprah Winfrey
  4. No stream or gas drives anything until it is confined. No Niagara is ever turned into light and power until it is tunneled. No life ever grows great until it is focused, dedicated and disciplined.
    Harry E. Fosdick
  5. Learn how to turn frustration into fascination. You will learn more being fascinated by life than you will by being frustrated by it.
    Jim Rohn
  6. Sharpen your interest in two major subjects: life and people. You will only gather information from a source if you are interested in it.
    Jim Rohn
  7. One of the best places to start to turn your life around is by doing whatever appears on your mental ‘I should’ list.
    Jim Rohn
  8. What you want in your life occasionally shows up… what you must have…always does.
    Doug Firebaugh
  9. One of the great lessons I’ve learned in athletics is that you’ve got to discipline your life. No matter how good you may be, you’ve got to be willing to cut out of your life those things that keep you from going to the top.
    Bob Richards

Quotes About Life Secrets and Keys

  1. The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.
    Buddha
  2. The key that unlocks energy is desire. It’s also the key to a long and interesting life. If we expect to create any drive, any real force within ourselves, we have to get excited.
    Earl Nightingale
  3. If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page.
    Mark Houlahan
  4. When you take charge of your life, there is no longer a need to ask permission of other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto power over your life.
    Geoffrey F. Abert
  5. Hold on to your dreams for they are, in a sense, the stuff of which reality is made. It is through our dreams that we maintain the possibility of a better, more meaningful life.
    Leo Buscaglia
  6. Our emotions need to be as educated as our intellect. It is important to know how to feel, how to respond, and how to let life in so that it can touch you.
    Jim Rohn
  7. No matter what age you are, or what your circumstances might be, you are special, and you still have something unique to offer. Your life, because of who you are, has meaning.
    Barbara De Angelis
  8. How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these.
    George Washington Carver

Some Life Lessons From Shahrukh Khan

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Shahrukh Khan is one of my favorite Indian industry movie-star. He’s recently completed his 20 years in Indian Film Industry and proved himself the true ‘King Khan of Bollywood’ with awesome performance in 70 plus movies. LA Times called him ‘The World’s Biggest Movie-Star.’ newsweek named him one the top 50 most powerful people in the world in 2008. He’s networth of INR 25 billion. He has lived a life one would dream of. But he’s definitely great lessons to teach us. Some of them are outlined below:

He speaks with calm

While watching his interviews, I really get shocked at his relax behavior. He gives fabulous cool answer even to hot controversial questions. He speaks so well with his charachteristic wit. Once in an interview, he said,
“When a movie flops, we find hundreds of excuses, rights from the color of one’s socks to the Great Wall of China.”

His Informed Attitude

His attitude is well-informed. Whenever he speaks about something, he’s something really worth-sharing in his mind. He’s got a knowledge about what he talks about. Even when he makes movies, he collects background compulsory knowledge-base behind that movie. If you will question him about his super-hero flick Ra.One, he’ll answer to your question quite technically but in very easy language.

High Passion

The man keeps his passion high, always. Passion in someone’s life is as must as having a key to start a vehicle. You’re to ignite your talent with key of ‘your passion’ to drive your life. So higher the passion is, higher will be the chance of getting goal achieved and SRK knows it very well. Developing a six-pack in his 40s for Dard-e-Disco in Om Shanti Om is an example of his passion. Recent super-hero sci-fi flick Ra.One is also a monument of his high passion; otherwise this was really not possible to make it in Bollywood town.

His Killer Enthusiasm

Whenever some of his coworkers are interviewd, enthusiasm of Badshah of Bollywood is talked about with much eager. Enthusiastic people are more likely to be successful; as they replace pessimism with optimism. You must have watched out Shahrukh Khan’s enthusiasm at IPL Season 5; the man was just out of control because of happiness he got when his KKR (Kolkatta Knight Riders) won the final. Guys like KK welcome success with both hands as they’d struggled out a lot in achieving it.

Up-to-dated iSRK

He keeps himself uptodated about latest technology. He’s an e-book-reader, a gadget-user, video-game-lover and blah blah blah. This is why he’s well-informed and educated. He was also one of the few B-town people who immediately realized the importance of micrblogging platform Twitter and social network Facebook. He uses his twitter account time-to-time whenever necessary.
His Twitter Account

Family Guy

He’s a family guy and the world knows this reality. Whenever he’s interviewd, he looks for chance to speake of his son, daughter, wife and most probably his parents who’d left this worl in 1990. He lived many years without his parents in the age when someone needs them badly. But he has never blamed nature or some other reasons. He just went on his way to success. He often says that he’d wish his movies to be so big that his parents watch them from Heaven. Family is a boundage to keep us unite. Only because of family, we feel that we’re not alone. And SRK knows it better.

I’d love to listen some more good things of Shahrukh Khan from which we can get life lessons from in the comments.

How to Face Difficult People

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I am sure you have also come across many negative, lose-tempered and difficult people in your life. Do you remember the last person and probably last fight with him/her? Can you recall the person who had intentions to teach you a lesson and ultimately hurt you a lot? Sometimes you think you have also become difficult person for others, right? But for how long it will continue? You must have some future plans to interact with them and sometimes not to interact, yeah, of course. I know it is difficult to deal difficult people, at last this is why they are called ‘Difficult’ What if I say that let them or situation go. After all who to deal with them?

Why Controlling Our Responses

“Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”

When you hold grudge against someone, te only person you hurt is yourself. You are disturbing your own inner-peace. When people initiate negatively, actually they want fire to spread around your life. So it is not your mistake, right? Then why take it personally? Actually the problem is; our ego loves conflicts.

“In this desperate world, people are so bored and unhappy with their own lives that they want yours down with them” (TSN)

Sometimes, I get really very bad comments on my blog-posts, FB-posts etc. And people ask me what I do in this situation. I simply tell them that I ignore them because this is their matter if they did not like the idea. It does not mean that I dont respect their ideas. Actually I love them. But if there’s no positivity in their comments, I simply dont put any attention.

“Anger Feeds Anger’

Believe me or not but I have never ever observed any positivity out of negativity like a fight, clash, negative thoughts or any other actions. Look, you invest your energy and time in defending yourself and what gain you get in the end? You get negativity and more intense situation of course. So responding to stupid people is just a wastage of time and energy. Remember, where attention goes, energy flows. Is your energy so useless to use for such negative people? All this negativity spreads around your life. You surely have come across a situation when someone in your life has disturbed you mentally and you have ruined other of your life-areas.

“Freedom of Speech”

When people express their thoughts, they actually express themselves. Allow them to express themselves boldly. The conflict in life is a matter of different perspective. After all, you also have your own perspective regarding some situation, idea or other things like that. Some people express themselves very aggressively that might be irritating to you. Just believe that there is difficiency in their behavior, then why you punish yourselves for their wrong behavior?

Click below and you will love learning 3 lessons by Susan Fee who’s Licensed Professional Counselor:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Sl1y-Cj5Mk

When I’m talking about not to interact with those negative people. You might have a strong point, ‘I’m human, having emotions and egos, after all.’ Yeah, point is; response comes out of emotions and egos. But with proper dealing and utilizing rationality, you can lessen/avoid negativity out of your responses in your life.
Followings are some suggestion to consider:

“Wait… Breathe…”

Sometimes, you feel compelled to comment on post, reply to your email or respond to others’ sayings/actions. Let me be clear; you will never ever get good positive results in hurry, as the saying goes, “Haste makes waste.” Cool down. Those negative difficult people actually want to add oil to fire and if you fulfill their aim, then what a gain for you? They will do it more if you let them to do it more. If you will not go crazy, they will wonder and possibly end putting fire onto you.

“Stop Talking About Negativity”‘

When you have problem or conflict in your life, dont share it to others all the time. This makes your life more negativity-senstitive. Thoughts are very important in life. Stop talking about negative happenings in your life to avoid or atleast lessen more negative thoughts and ultimately lessening/avoiding negative consequences. The more you talk about, the more you’d be sensitive to it.

“Take Their Position and See!

Become observer of your and his/her situation. Think if you were the person in place of the other person you are considering negative and bad. What you could have felt on the response you gave to him/her/them? Then think again and behave him/her/them how you want them to be behaved. This is the only best thing you could do sometimes. And listen, every situation is lesson-teaching. Regardless of how negative scenerio is there, there are always lessons to learn. Life is name of learnings.

“Delete Negative People in Your Life”

When you are sure you cannot handle the situation and there seems no positivity, then simply eliminate those negative people from your life. Your life is very precious, right? Then why you ruin your life with them? You are not here on Earth to be surrounded amongst negative poeple. Your life is not a wastage to be wasted away among negative guys. Believe me or not, it is not selfishness rather it’s rationality. Avoid making some interactions with them. Remember, you also have a choice of being surrounded among the persons you admire and who admire you and your qualities.

“Run, Walk…”

When you are stressed, running or walking out is also a great option to deal difficult people.

“Express it on the Paper”

Express all what you have in your mind onto piece of paper. And then roll that piece of paper and put it away. Feel that all your tentions and stress has been gone away in the dustbin with that paper. How do you face difficult people in your life? I am curious. What was the best point you liked in the post? Let me know in comments. Thanks.

Video Gaming & Lifestyle

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Do you play games? Do you love them? If yes, what kind of games you right now have in your PC or games-collection-wallet.? Computer gaming is also an addiction and everybody knows that very well. But users of video games dont believe so. Everyone especially kids are often seen playing video games on their PCs(Personal Computers). “Anyone who has experienced it knows all too well – video game addiction is real” says an auther of video-game-addiction website.

This is a controversial issue that when first video game was produced. But according to my search and research, William Higinbotham produced first video game named ‘Tennis for Two’  in 1958. In 1962, Steve Russel, a young MIT programmer invented ‘SpaceWar’ which was the first video game ever invented for computer use. For using on TV sets, Ralph Baer created first video game called ‘Chase’ for TV sets. SpaceWar was liked by many guys at that time. After the great launch of PC (Personal Computer), playing games has appeared to be craze or something like addiction among youngsters. People especially kids love to enjoy playing games at home. In this desperate world of distress, if someone gets happiness by playing games, it appears to be great thing to do.

But there are disadvantages of playing these video games too. In playing games, youngsters waste their lots of energy and time. After playing a lot, they watch the time and say, “Oh it’s ___am or pm, I didn’t realize…” All this addiction leads them to discontentment and discontinuity in life. There are also social adherence too. You are playing your favorite game and suddenly, you listen a calling tone, you notice your close friend is making a call to you. You watch back to your PC-Screen and dont receive the call. You might think, “I’ll receive the call after completing this round of game.” This slowly makes you away from your social circle. Parents also get worried and talk from different perspectives that you may not feel good at them.

Apart from excessive use of PC games, these are also hazardous in growing a kid up. Most of the gamesare of fighting ones. Kids playing fighting games become distracted mentally. Their blood circulates more than that of an averege person. Their minds are filled with blodd, murders, fights & other illegal activities. Users in lots of games is supposed to kill many innocent person in the game in order to reach the final destination (round). And once, you are in final round of the game, you are to kill lots more fellows to win the game. According to video-game-addiction.org, “Today on Amazon.com, one of the most popular video games being sold is titled “Call of Duty 4: Modern Warfare.” In this game, players can take on the role of either a U.S. or British soldier who is sent to military “hot spots” to defeat the world’s most dangerous enemies. Like other games in its genre, the images are near lifelike and the violence is graphic. As the level of violence in video games has increased, so has concern for the effects on those who play – especially those who play a lot. Many are quick to point out that most school shootings in recent years have been carried out by avid gamers, and their games of choice were always dark and violent.”

There are many stripping games (Adult Games) too in the market. In these games, user, after completing rounds gradually, gets reward of one item of clothes of girl removed.  According to Wikipedia, “Strip games are party games, usually involving more than one player, where players remove clothes when they lose a card hand, points in a game, or otherwise fail to come out ahead.” Such games can be very dangerous for the guys who are not still mature. They cannot resist being away from the opposite sex. So these games are also sex appealing. But what to do? Such games demanded by people are being produced by producing companies. And this willl continue untill users are organized, rationalised and awared of all consequences games can cause.

Let Them Learn Themselves, Finally

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I bet you have also tried to advise someone like your friend, brother, niece or nephew, son or daughter or even any stranger. But result was a damaging behaviour. You cant help the ones who dont want to be helped. In this article you are going to learn why you should let them go and let them learn all the cold things by themselves, finally.

I do sure that in life sometimes, you have come across the people who dont care about any kind of your help. They dont follow pieces of your advice.
Elders advise but youngsters just ignore and carry on. And this is not confined to youngsters only. Sometimes, they get embarrassed at others’ help. Reasons can be many One of those is; you are not helping people etiquettely i.e. the way you are helping can be irritating for them. Another reason is that you are too much helping them. And in the end if you find nothing like two above given reasons, then there’s always one reason; ‘They dont want to be helped’, so let them learn by themselves, finally.

I have two friends; Irfan & Mehran. Irfan is (also) uncle of Mehran. Mehran is keen to make lots of girlfriends. Irfan tries to stop him, thinking his career is damaging because of this habit. He advises, advises a lot, by different ways; telling him about the mis-haps and bad consequences of all this. But Mehran is the one who doesn’t put an ear to Irfan’s pieces of advice. Even now Mehran has begun to avoid him, at last. He doesn’t accept him as his friend or nephew or a well-wisher. Why? Actually Mehran doesn’t want to be advised. Sometimes, some people see nothing except what they want to. They are crazy about things they love whether those ones are bad. They learn no-sooner or never. Jinah Poonja once told his son Muhammad Ali Jinah (Founder of Pakistan) the two ways of learning in life:
1. You, follow the pieces of advice given by elders.
2. You, learn by doing all things by yourself.
But he also told his son that first way is better as it saves time and energy. Now it is upto you; choose option one or two. But I’d advise you (as I know you probably follow advice) to save precious time and energy by choosing option one.

Finally, I’d like you to share your experiences related to this in comments.

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