I bet you have also tried to advise someone like your friend, brother, niece or nephew, son or daughter or even any stranger. But result was a damaging behaviour. You cant help the ones who dont want to be helped. In this article you are going to learn why you should let them go and let them learn all the cold things by themselves, finally.
I do sure that in life sometimes, you have come across the people who dont care about any kind of your help. They dont follow pieces of your advice.
Elders advise but youngsters just ignore and carry on. And this is not confined to youngsters only. Sometimes, they get embarrassed at others’ help. Reasons can be many One of those is; you are not helping people etiquettely i.e. the way you are helping can be irritating for them. Another reason is that you are too much helping them. And in the end if you find nothing like two above given reasons, then there’s always one reason; ‘They dont want to be helped’, so let them learn by themselves, finally.
I have two friends; Irfan & Mehran. Irfan is (also) uncle of Mehran. Mehran is keen to make lots of girlfriends. Irfan tries to stop him, thinking his career is damaging because of this habit. He advises, advises a lot, by different ways; telling him about the mis-haps and bad consequences of all this. But Mehran is the one who doesn’t put an ear to Irfan’s pieces of advice. Even now Mehran has begun to avoid him, at last. He doesn’t accept him as his friend or nephew or a well-wisher. Why? Actually Mehran doesn’t want to be advised. Sometimes, some people see nothing except what they want to. They are crazy about things they love whether those ones are bad. They learn no-sooner or never. Jinah Poonja once told his son Muhammad Ali Jinah (Founder of Pakistan) the two ways of learning in life:
1. You, follow the pieces of advice given by elders.
2. You, learn by doing all things by yourself.
But he also told his son that first way is better as it saves time and energy. Now it is upto you; choose option one or two. But I’d advise you (as I know you probably follow advice) to save precious time and energy by choosing option one.
Finally, I’d like you to share your experiences related to this in comments.
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