How to Be Successful in Life


What is the ultimate goal of your life? What do you want from your life? The simple answer to these questions is: Being Successful. After all this is what we want from our life, right? In this article you are going to know what success is and what it really takes you to be successful in life. We all want to live a life which makes us more comfortable and happier. This featured article on SuccessVersity.Com is pretty long. So, take your time and enjoy coffee while studying it. It’s not dry stuff, but adding coffee would be great idea to rock your own ideas and precious time on. Continue reading

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Are You Waiting for Your Happiness?


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If you are waiting for the happiness to arrive onto your door, you are just wasting your time. Sorry but it’s the truth and I cannot condole later. Lately, I have broken up with my girlfriend whose relation was probably 13 years old but I have broken up with her. Why? Because she has screwed me around the years while I have waited for the right moment to come and change our relationship but it never happened and I bet it was never going to happen. Some people can never change themselves, you must change them (change in the sense of leaving them on their own). You deserve better and they deserve your break-up! She has let me down when I talked about me, myself, my life and my passion. I also used to talk about her, her life and her passions during which she has been excellent! But what about me? I didn’t matter to her? Yes I really didn’t. I had thought that she is going to lose something significant if I leave her but it never was the case and it never will be. I know she’s been just fine exactly like me. I have started working on my passion to build different inspirational blogs and to write for others too. I am getting well-paid and I am OK with it. Happiness is achieved – not owned for granted. You cannot make yourself happy if you go on pleasing other people. Lately, I was watching a Hollywood movie titled ‘The Internship’ in which there’re two salesmen who have been fired out by their company because of recession time. They start googling and they find that Google is organizing internship program in which it will appoint one team in Google Inc. They get into it and start working on their dream of working in open environment where employee is give freedom to raise his voice. And they did it even after many obstacles in their way. Why? Because they didn’t wait for the happiness to arrive, they started working on it and they got it. This is as simple rule as Einstein’s law of motion.

Now, let’s get inspiration and wisdom through the happiness quotes given below.

10 Happiness Quotes

  1. Look for something positive about this moment.  Even if you have to look a little harder than usual, it still exists.
  2. When you smile about the life you live, you end up living a life worth smiling about.
  3. Remember, social comparison is the thief of happiness.  You could spend a lifetime worrying about what others have, but it wouldn’t get you anything.
  4. Happiness comes more easily when you feel good about yourself without feeling the need for anyone else’s approval.
  5. Be nice to people on your way up because you might meet them again on your way back down.
  6. Just because it didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.
  7. People love others not for who they are but for how they make them fee
  8. Any fool can be happy when times are good.  It takes a strong soul with real heart to develop smiles out of situations that make us weep.
  9. Whatever you do, don’t get stuck on the one thing that ruins your day.  Smile and be grateful.  Life is too short to waste on negativity.
  10. Never let anyone steal your happiness, it was never theirs to take.

Want to get more inspiration? You can go to 30 Essential Happiness Quotes on QuotesNSmiles.Com

Last Word about Happiness

Happiness is often found when and where you decide to seek it. If you wait for happiness within the opportunities you have, you will find it. But if you look for something else, unfortunately, you will find that too – un-happiness probably!

Like this article? Will you please share it with your loved-ones so that they also might understand that what it really takes to being happy. Or do you have something to add to this? Do it below in comments. Thanks

How to Face Difficult People


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I am sure you have also come across many negative, lose-tempered and difficult people in your life. Do you remember the last person and probably last fight with him/her? Can you recall the person who had intentions to teach you a lesson and ultimately hurt you a lot? Sometimes you think you have also become difficult person for others, right? But for how long it will continue? You must have some future plans to interact with them and sometimes not to interact, yeah, of course. I know it is difficult to deal difficult people, at last this is why they are called ‘Difficult’ What if I say that let them or situation go. After all who to deal with them?

Why Controlling Our Responses

“Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”

When you hold grudge against someone, te only person you hurt is yourself. You are disturbing your own inner-peace. When people initiate negatively, actually they want fire to spread around your life. So it is not your mistake, right? Then why take it personally? Actually the problem is; our ego loves conflicts.

“In this desperate world, people are so bored and unhappy with their own lives that they want yours down with them” (TSN)

Sometimes, I get really very bad comments on my blog-posts, FB-posts etc. And people ask me what I do in this situation. I simply tell them that I ignore them because this is their matter if they did not like the idea. It does not mean that I dont respect their ideas. Actually I love them. But if there’s no positivity in their comments, I simply dont put any attention.

“Anger Feeds Anger’

Believe me or not but I have never ever observed any positivity out of negativity like a fight, clash, negative thoughts or any other actions. Look, you invest your energy and time in defending yourself and what gain you get in the end? You get negativity and more intense situation of course. So responding to stupid people is just a wastage of time and energy. Remember, where attention goes, energy flows. Is your energy so useless to use for such negative people? All this negativity spreads around your life. You surely have come across a situation when someone in your life has disturbed you mentally and you have ruined other of your life-areas.

“Freedom of Speech”

When people express their thoughts, they actually express themselves. Allow them to express themselves boldly. The conflict in life is a matter of different perspective. After all, you also have your own perspective regarding some situation, idea or other things like that. Some people express themselves very aggressively that might be irritating to you. Just believe that there is difficiency in their behavior, then why you punish yourselves for their wrong behavior?

Click below and you will love learning 3 lessons by Susan Fee who’s Licensed Professional Counselor:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Sl1y-Cj5Mk

When I’m talking about not to interact with those negative people. You might have a strong point, ‘I’m human, having emotions and egos, after all.’ Yeah, point is; response comes out of emotions and egos. But with proper dealing and utilizing rationality, you can lessen/avoid negativity out of your responses in your life.
Followings are some suggestion to consider:

“Wait… Breathe…”

Sometimes, you feel compelled to comment on post, reply to your email or respond to others’ sayings/actions. Let me be clear; you will never ever get good positive results in hurry, as the saying goes, “Haste makes waste.” Cool down. Those negative difficult people actually want to add oil to fire and if you fulfill their aim, then what a gain for you? They will do it more if you let them to do it more. If you will not go crazy, they will wonder and possibly end putting fire onto you.

“Stop Talking About Negativity”‘

When you have problem or conflict in your life, dont share it to others all the time. This makes your life more negativity-senstitive. Thoughts are very important in life. Stop talking about negative happenings in your life to avoid or atleast lessen more negative thoughts and ultimately lessening/avoiding negative consequences. The more you talk about, the more you’d be sensitive to it.

“Take Their Position and See!

Become observer of your and his/her situation. Think if you were the person in place of the other person you are considering negative and bad. What you could have felt on the response you gave to him/her/them? Then think again and behave him/her/them how you want them to be behaved. This is the only best thing you could do sometimes. And listen, every situation is lesson-teaching. Regardless of how negative scenerio is there, there are always lessons to learn. Life is name of learnings.

“Delete Negative People in Your Life”

When you are sure you cannot handle the situation and there seems no positivity, then simply eliminate those negative people from your life. Your life is very precious, right? Then why you ruin your life with them? You are not here on Earth to be surrounded amongst negative poeple. Your life is not a wastage to be wasted away among negative guys. Believe me or not, it is not selfishness rather it’s rationality. Avoid making some interactions with them. Remember, you also have a choice of being surrounded among the persons you admire and who admire you and your qualities.

“Run, Walk…”

When you are stressed, running or walking out is also a great option to deal difficult people.

“Express it on the Paper”

Express all what you have in your mind onto piece of paper. And then roll that piece of paper and put it away. Feel that all your tentions and stress has been gone away in the dustbin with that paper. How do you face difficult people in your life? I am curious. What was the best point you liked in the post? Let me know in comments. Thanks.

Let Them Learn Themselves, Finally


I bet you have also tried to advise someone like your friend, brother, niece or nephew, son or daughter or even any stranger. But result was a damaging behaviour. You cant help the ones who dont want to be helped. In this article you are going to learn why you should let them go and let them learn all the cold things by themselves, finally.

I do sure that in life sometimes, you have come across the people who dont care about any kind of your help. They dont follow pieces of your advice.
Elders advise but youngsters just ignore and carry on. And this is not confined to youngsters only. Sometimes, they get embarrassed at others’ help. Reasons can be many One of those is; you are not helping people etiquettely i.e. the way you are helping can be irritating for them. Another reason is that you are too much helping them. And in the end if you find nothing like two above given reasons, then there’s always one reason; ‘They dont want to be helped’, so let them learn by themselves, finally.

I have two friends; Irfan & Mehran. Irfan is (also) uncle of Mehran. Mehran is keen to make lots of girlfriends. Irfan tries to stop him, thinking his career is damaging because of this habit. He advises, advises a lot, by different ways; telling him about the mis-haps and bad consequences of all this. But Mehran is the one who doesn’t put an ear to Irfan’s pieces of advice. Even now Mehran has begun to avoid him, at last. He doesn’t accept him as his friend or nephew or a well-wisher. Why? Actually Mehran doesn’t want to be advised. Sometimes, some people see nothing except what they want to. They are crazy about things they love whether those ones are bad. They learn no-sooner or never. Jinah Poonja once told his son Muhammad Ali Jinah (Founder of Pakistan) the two ways of learning in life:
1. You, follow the pieces of advice given by elders.
2. You, learn by doing all things by yourself.
But he also told his son that first way is better as it saves time and energy. Now it is upto you; choose option one or two. But I’d advise you (as I know you probably follow advice) to save precious time and energy by choosing option one.

Finally, I’d like you to share your experiences related to this in comments.

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