This article has been featured in SuccessVersity.Com
I am sure you have also come across many negative, lose-tempered and difficult people in your life. Do you remember the last person and probably last fight with him/her? Can you recall the person who had intentions to teach you a lesson and ultimately hurt you a lot? Sometimes you think you have also become difficult person for others, right? But for how long it will continue? You must have some future plans to interact with them and sometimes not to interact, yeah, of course. I know it is difficult to deal difficult people, at last this is why they are called ‘Difficult’ What if I say that let them or situation go. After all who to deal with them?
Why Controlling Our Responses
“Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
When you hold grudge against someone, te only person you hurt is yourself. You are disturbing your own inner-peace. When people initiate negatively, actually they want fire to spread around your life. So it is not your mistake, right? Then why take it personally? Actually the problem is; our ego loves conflicts.
“In this desperate world, people are so bored and unhappy with their own lives that they want yours down with them” (TSN)
Sometimes, I get really very bad comments on my blog-posts, FB-posts etc. And people ask me what I do in this situation. I simply tell them that I ignore them because this is their matter if they did not like the idea. It does not mean that I dont respect their ideas. Actually I love them. But if there’s no positivity in their comments, I simply dont put any attention.
“Anger Feeds Anger’
Believe me or not but I have never ever observed any positivity out of negativity like a fight, clash, negative thoughts or any other actions. Look, you invest your energy and time in defending yourself and what gain you get in the end? You get negativity and more intense situation of course. So responding to stupid people is just a wastage of time and energy. Remember, where attention goes, energy flows. Is your energy so useless to use for such negative people? All this negativity spreads around your life. You surely have come across a situation when someone in your life has disturbed you mentally and you have ruined other of your life-areas.
“Freedom of Speech”
When people express their thoughts, they actually express themselves. Allow them to express themselves boldly. The conflict in life is a matter of different perspective. After all, you also have your own perspective regarding some situation, idea or other things like that. Some people express themselves very aggressively that might be irritating to you. Just believe that there is difficiency in their behavior, then why you punish yourselves for their wrong behavior?
Click below and you will love learning 3 lessons by Susan Fee who’s Licensed Professional Counselor:
When I’m talking about not to interact with those negative people. You might have a strong point, ‘I’m human, having emotions and egos, after all.’ Yeah, point is; response comes out of emotions and egos. But with proper dealing and utilizing rationality, you can lessen/avoid negativity out of your responses in your life.
Followings are some suggestion to consider:
Sometimes, you feel compelled to comment on post, reply to your email or respond to others’ sayings/actions. Let me be clear; you will never ever get good positive results in hurry, as the saying goes, “Haste makes waste.” Cool down. Those negative difficult people actually want to add oil to fire and if you fulfill their aim, then what a gain for you? They will do it more if you let them to do it more. If you will not go crazy, they will wonder and possibly end putting fire onto you.
“Stop Talking About Negativity”‘
When you have problem or conflict in your life, dont share it to others all the time. This makes your life more negativity-senstitive. Thoughts are very important in life. Stop talking about negative happenings in your life to avoid or atleast lessen more negative thoughts and ultimately lessening/avoiding negative consequences. The more you talk about, the more you’d be sensitive to it.
“Take Their Position and See!
Become observer of your and his/her situation. Think if you were the person in place of the other person you are considering negative and bad. What you could have felt on the response you gave to him/her/them? Then think again and behave him/her/them how you want them to be behaved. This is the only best thing you could do sometimes. And listen, every situation is lesson-teaching. Regardless of how negative scenerio is there, there are always lessons to learn. Life is name of learnings.
“Delete Negative People in Your Life”
When you are sure you cannot handle the situation and there seems no positivity, then simply eliminate those negative people from your life. Your life is very precious, right? Then why you ruin your life with them? You are not here on Earth to be surrounded amongst negative poeple. Your life is not a wastage to be wasted away among negative guys. Believe me or not, it is not selfishness rather it’s rationality. Avoid making some interactions with them. Remember, you also have a choice of being surrounded among the persons you admire and who admire you and your qualities.
When you are stressed, running or walking out is also a great option to deal difficult people.
“Express it on the Paper”
Express all what you have in your mind onto piece of paper. And then roll that piece of paper and put it away. Feel that all your tentions and stress has been gone away in the dustbin with that paper. How do you face difficult people in your life? I am curious. What was the best point you liked in the post? Let me know in comments. Thanks.